Respectful, not shy

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Dear Editor:

I have fond memories of growing up in my own reservation. I believe my parents raised us up to the best of their ability. We grew up happy despite the poor economic conditions in those days. All we needed was a roof over our heads and the family to be happy.

I recalled the times we had visitors. We were sent to go play or we were told to sit down and not to even speak or make any kind of noise. If we spoke we were told that we were showing disrespect to the visitors.

In the presence of Elders we were told that we were expected not to talk. This was showing respect to the Elders. It was a custom that only the Elders and the adults could talk.

I disagree when someone is termed 'shy', especially when one has gone through this form of teaching. I firmly believe that research and instruction from our elders is the key. The teaching I got from my parents and Elders have stayed with me even until now. Is it my fault that I am not as talkative as the others? I wait for the perfect, opportune time to say something, if there are issues to be discussed.

In conclusion, the teaching and instruction I got from my parents and Elders I cherish. I use the teachings still today to make myself a better person. The best way to get understanding is to open yourself to more learning, consult, search, look for Elders that would be glad to answer any questions and concerns you may have. Again, before you say 'shy' to anyone, get learning first.

Yours truly,

Arthur Turner.